Listen in to a deep conversation between two
rhythm-based musical instruments.
Says the tabla: What kind of a miserable life is this? Getting
beaten up all the time and to top it all, people enjoy the
sounds produced while I undergo this treatment.
Replies the mridang after some introspection: You are lucky, as you
are hit only on one side, while I am beaten up from both
What can you gather from this dialogue? Each one of us behaves
exactly in the same manner, when we feel that we are ones
chosen to undergo all the trials and tribulations of life. But
wait, do you know where the solution lies ultimately?
In looking around us. Just look at the person seated next to
you and you realize how much more blessed you are.
The recent news of an Ex-Miss India Nafisa Joseph committing
suicide sent shock waves all over. For once, if only she knew
how girls all over crave to have the kind of beauty, fame and
wealth, which she possessed, she would never have contemplated
to take such a drastic, fatal step. Our Showman, Raj Kapoor
rightly said, " The show must go on, no matter what."
Life never stops at the behest of anyone or anything. End of a
particular relationship or ceasing of a beautiful phase of
life simply doesnít signify the end of life. Life has plenty
to offer a lot to teach and millions of experiences to share.
So do you want to be a part of life? Lets look at a few ways
in which a person who has lost interest in living can make a
Did you know one of the best ways of deriving pleasure was
to do something you like and get someone to pay you for it?
All of us have hobbies, painting, sculpture, music, dance,
collection of antiques, stamps, coins etc.
The best way to make a restart is to create a career out of
your hobby. This could give the person ample satisfaction,
peace of mind and last, but not the least, a livelihood.
2.Pursuing meditation and yoga, joining laughter clubs and
paying visits to the local gym:
teaches a person to gain a control over his mind, think within
his limits and keep his cool in times of crisis. Visits to the
local gym and learning yoga help him tone his body, gain the
required physical energy and make him feel fit from within.
Joining laughter clubs, a latest phenomenon, will show him the
beauty of life and teach him to take sorrows and joys in a
like manner. All these activities will help the person to gain
emotional, physical and mental strength. It would rejuvenate
him from within and give him the much-needed moral boost.
motivational works by renowned authors: -Reading provides
the human mind ample food for thought, gives it an analytical
bent and also pumps in new ideas. Norman Vincent Peale has
focussed a lot on the powers of positive thinking in his
books. Positive thinking and an optimistic outlook are indeed
magical ways of looking at life. Another example is that of
Dale Carnegie which gives an insight into how a person can win
over people and earn a popular image. Such books have a deep
impact on the mind of a person and influence him to channelise
his attention, time and energy into creative pursuits, instead
of wallowing in self-pity.
Work: -A visit to a nearby childrenísí orphanage or an old
age home and making a worthy contribution in terms of time,
money or by offering something like food, clothes, books
brings enormous amount of fulfillment and peace of mind. It
gives you an insight into how much sorrow exists in reality
and what a difference you can make by spending time with such
people. It serves as a distracting agent and also gives you
the satisfaction of having contributed something worthwhile to
the deprived lot of the society.
to soulful music: -The music therapy has recently earned a
lot of renown for having a healing touch. It soothes the
troubled nerves and proves to be a great rejuvenator, giving
the required serenity and calm environment, needed to destress
the mind. Once the person is able to relieve himself of the
stress he is undergoing, he finds himself fit enough to
undertake a new activity, that too with renewed energy and
religious activities: -A normal visit to a place of
worship be it a temple, a church or a mosque provides immense
peace of mind. In such a pure, unpolluted atmosphere,
cleansing oneís mind becomes so much easier and thus, acts as
a crucial outlet for bottled-up emotions and feelings.
Reciting prayers, attending religious meets and organizing
religious seminars all in a way divert negative thoughts into
positive channels. This largely helps in preventing the person
from taking drastic steps which later could prove to be fatal.
time with animals:-Animals have the greatest ability to
take things off your mind. Stroke a cat or a dog on your way
to work and you will know the difference it makes to you and
them the following day onwards when they begin following you.
A better proposition would be to join an animal welfare
centre, attend animal shows and in short, spend maximum time
with these creatures, who may not be able to speak your mother
tongue, but teach you the universal language of love.
Start a new business: -The best way to get out of an
unwanted situation is to have a change of place and maybe to
embark on a brand new venture. Moving into a new town / city
entails meeting new people and adapting to new surroundings.
More often than not, such a change itself does the trick by
giving you a completely new environment and helps you put your
painful past behind you and make a fresh beginning. Another
way could be to start on a new business which could be related
to your hobbies, as mentioned before. These include dealing in
antiques, paintings, artwork etc.
a new art: -Many of us do not get the opportunity of
learning a particular art or pursuing a particular talent
during our childhood. So at a juncture in our life when we
feel lost, cheated or dejected, pursuing this long-lost dream
will go a long way in keeping us occupied, it may even prove
to be challenging, but it certainly will keep negative ideas
at bay. Even learning a new language could give the required
a child: -Life is the most precious gift of god to every
living creature on earth. Yet in case of orphaned or abandoned
children, the person who begets the child doesnít occupy a
position equivalent to the person who actually gives it a
home, a beautiful upbringing and the joy of a warm family.
Thus, for a person who otherwise considers himself as
unfortunate or unlucky, he can prove lucky for a child by
adopting it, accepting it as his own and giving it the
valuable coveted gift of life.
These are just a few ways of kickstarting your life, your most
valuable possession which must not be given up no matter how
miserable a juncture you arrive at. Remember that when you do
not have the power of creating life, you similarly do not own
the right to end it as well. Life is an ocean of myriad
colours, providing innumerable educative experiences, each
leaving behind a crucial message.
It is often said, " Life isnít a bed of roses".
It actually is, but with the thorns in place. Learn to take
pricks of these thorns in the same way you enjoy the soft
touch of rose petals.