Wednesday, November 22, 2006
posted by a correspondent at Wednesday, November 22, 2006

Just a few days back, Tripathiji wrote about parenting, and the very important role of an occasional slap to put the impertinent little jerk in his place. And today, through desipundit, I came across ful2 faltu writing about the terror he and his brother had for their father.

Tripathiji says:

"In case we cribbed and tried to create a nuisance, we were firmly told to stop. In rare cases when we did not relent; one tight slap was all that was needed to put us back firmly in place."
Read the full post here.

I am tempted to agree. I have between 20 and 30 cousin brothers and sisters (I have lost count!) and I was the eldest, so as the elder brother, I spent most of my childhood slapping them around. Being a pest? Whack! Fighting with your sister? Thwack! I see arrogance in your eyes. Slap! Very entertaining I must say. This I used to do when I was away from my father and mother who spent their most of their awake hours whacking or threatening to whack me and my siblings. Sometimes, faced with an impertinent jackass of a kid, you just know that the appropriate response is to get give him a solid one on his butt. Oh the pleasure of that sound!

Ful2 faltu had no such luck; he spent most of his time trying to escape from such atrocities perpetrated on him by his dad.
"Dad would be with stick, broom or belt depending upon what he could lay his hands on and we would be running around trying to escape. Mom did not intervene at the serious time. It was some neighbors who would intervene."
Read the full post here

Because I was thrashed and have thrashed, I feel both pleasure and horror when I read it. Probably elder brothers who got thrashed and could thrash too go schizo. I can feel for ful2 Faltu, and I can feel a wild grin coming over my face when I think about it from the dad's POV.

In fact, thrashings were not exactly from dad or mom alone. They could come from anywhere. I was often the first rank holder in all class tests; and even I got caned once in a while. So for those of you who think that thrashings are only for bad students, you are wrong. All kids used to get thrashed or caned.

One of my favourite stories, which I recite proudly in every conversation about thrashings (we adults have a lot of them, don't we?) is about when the nun who was teaching us in my 3rd or 4th standard class thought I was creating a disturbance. Fact was, there was a nut sitting behind me who ws poking me, and after two or three pokings, I turned around to ask him what his problem was -- and that was the only thing the stupid nun saw. She told me to hold out my hand and brought out her evil cane. I tried to explain, but nuns listen only to Jesus. I was all indignation and self righteousness personified, red in the face and fuming, and she just wanted to cane me on my palm and continue with the class. Well, the cane came down once, and I caught it and broke it into 3-4 pieces and walked out of the class. No thinking, just action and damn the consequences!

I still get all goosepimply when I remember that.

Anyway - we were talking about thrashings, right? I think even wives deserve thrashing once in a while - problem is, wives are not kids, and they are big and grown up, and thrashing them is wife-beating. No matter if they are being impertinent too - you can only legally and morally beat little kids who can't do anything to prevent it. That's the law. Big girls who can actually resist, and sometimes give you one back, are not to be beaten. Looking at it that way, its like kicking a dog. It can only moan and run away. On the other hand, there are laws which at least imply that you can't kick tigers. This is unfair to someone I am sure, but I am getting confused with all these people and animals I have brought into this post; so please figure out who it is all unfair to by yourself.

So instead of beating my wife, I just stop eating. I say, I won't eat and look all sad and forlorn, and then I feel its like some kind of mental beating - which is all I can do. Much more complicated this way though - I long for the days when a husband could just slap his wife because there is no toothpaste or because he doesn't like his boss or something. Modern times make it much more complicated.

Back to beating kids - let me warn all parents though. Those little animals that look like humans can be very nasty. Don't be surprised if they spit in your food or tear up your mortgage papers or drump your credit card in the sewer. They don't like being beaten, and they will definitely have their revenge one way or the other.
 
 
5 Comments:


At 4:58 AM, Full2 Faltu

Udi baba!

It was not so bad re. Ofcourse Hum khauf ke saye main rehte the par it was ok.

I am curious what happened to the Nun story? What happened home?

-Punds

 

At 12:37 AM, Anonymous

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At 12:38 AM, Matt

Sorry posted my comment from my wife's id.. sheesh.

 

At 12:39 AM, Matt

Hehe.. people at school and home were too stunned to beat me up! They thought itna gussa hua toh there must be some truth in what he says. And a kid who walks out of school may walk out of home tomorrow, so let's be careful. I was thus saved!!

 

At 6:43 PM, bhattathiri

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Medical studies continue to show regular meditation working magic in reducing blood pressure and stress-related illnesses, including heart disease. Brain images show that regular meditation helps calm the most active sensory-assaulted parts of the brain. The ancient Hindu sage Patanjali who had mastered the secrets of the human mind has written a book "Yogasutra".In this book we can see how super powers can be achieved by meditation. It has both cosmic relevance and cosmic resonance. In spite of its universal appeal, for most people total control of mind remains an elusive goal and daunting task. From time immemorial, there have been many attempts throughout the world to unlock the mysteries of the mind and to achieve total control over it through a variety of techniques. One of the most powerful of these techniques is meditation.
Many spiritual leaders, sages, saints, and holy people such asSri. Buddha, Sri Ramakrishna, Madam Sarada Devi, and Swami Vivekananda have practiced this. One of the ways to control physiological reactions to psychological stimuli is meditation, Yoga, Zen Buddhism etc. The scientists take Transcendental Meditation (TM) as the uniform technique, and base their observations on the study of the subjects engaged in this form of meditation. In summing up the results the scientists have come to conclusion that the effect of meditation is a "wakeful, hypo-metabolic state". They have found that: 1) Yogis could slow both heart rate and rate of respiration, 2) Yogis could slow the rate of metabolism as confirmed by decreased oxygen consumption and carbon-die-oxide output. 3) Electro-Encephala-Gram (EEG - recording of brain activity) in Yogis showed changes of calmness in the form of "alpha rhythm" during both eyes closed and eyes open recordings. 4) Their skin resistance to electric stimulation was increased (indicating increased tolerance to external stimuli). Our usual 'defense-alarm' reaction to emotional and physical stress is in the form of "fright, flight, and fight" mediated through over-secretion of certain neuron-transmitters and neuron-modulators, namely adrenaline and dopamine by way of stimulation of sympathetic nervous system. Under the influence of these chemicals and hormones, we reflexively become panicky or aggressive, our blood pressure rises. Thus stress and anxiety is the end result if we allow our natural age-old sympathetic reactions to act and to come to surface. We try to run away, become fearful, or fight the situation. But today these 'defense-alarm' reactions have no place in our lives. Rather, they should be replaced by more calm and serene reactions of equanimity and fearlessness. The need is to just 'face the brute, and it will go away'. Such desirable reactions of non-aggression and peaceful attitude are generated by Y ga and meditation. EEG Studies on Yogis and The Zen Meditations: Yogis practicing Raja-Yoga claim that during the state of Samadhi they are oblivious to the internal and external stimuli, and they enjoy a calm ecstasy during that state. A study was undertaken to record the electrical activity of their brain during this state by means of a regular and useful test known as electroencephalography EEG. Physiological and experimental studies have demonstrated that the basis of conscious state of brain, among other things, is due to activation of "reticular system" in the brain-stem in response to internal and external stimuli. These stimuli bring about various changes during sleeping and wakeful states of the organism and these can be studied by EEG. The study was carried out on four subjects during the state of concentration and meditation. Effects of external stimuli, like a loud gong, strong light, thermal simulation, and vibrations were studied. The results were compiled and analyzed. It was observed that two Yogis could keep their hands immersed in extremely cold water for about 50 minutes (raised pain threshold). During the state of meditation, all of them showed persistent "alpha activity" in their EEG with increased amplitude wave pattern, both during 'eyes closed' and 'eyes open' recording. It was observed that these alpha activities could not be blocked by various sensory stimuli during meditation. It was also observed that those, who had well-marked "alpha activity" in their resting EEG showed greater aptitude and zeal for maintaining the practice of Yoga. Similar observations and results were obtained when EEGs were recorded in persons adept in Zen Meditative technique. Can we say that only those persons who exhibit such recording of "alpha wave rhythm" in their EEG are fit for Yoga? and be designated as right candidates for meditation and Yoga practices? (Such experiments are indeed very few and the number of yogis examined is also very small. Therefore, scientifically and statistically these observations have only a tentative importance. Further research is definitely called for, albeit it will have its own limitations.) It is said that in the unknown period of Lord Jesus Christ , He was under meditation.
Ref. Yoga magazines
Newsweek.com
New York times
Time magazine